BitterSweet With Tochi

It has always been about love. Even when we deny it or try to avoid it, love is always around us. We’re either in love, dreaming about love, recovering from love, wishing for love or neglecting love. The experiencing of emotions like passion, affection, sentiment, obsession, desire, pleasure, fondness, attraction, or regard can be very confusing that we sometimes mistake them for ‘being in love’. We blindly go all the way to make major commitment and cry foul when things unfold to their true nature. What could be more unendurable than to share the years in intimacy with someone one dislikes? It is said that some people have a life time together and never know love. What is love?  Is it a strong sexual desire? Is it a strong feeling of emotion? A compulsive preoccupation with someone? What is the difference between mere desire and being in love? You want someone, they want you; that is desire. Did you know that a person can feel desire and yet it will not touch their h...

Stop Condemning “why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but fail to notice the beam in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘let me take the speck out of your eye’, while there is still a beam in your own eye? You hypocrite! First take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”  One of our major problem is that we are filled with our own rightness.  Often times we find ourselves in the habit of condemning others, strangers, those we love most, those we call family, and the people we refer to as friends.  We criticize the way someone eats or the manner in which they speak, they way they dress, how they manage their home, their choice of partner. We criticize the way they choose to show love, the way they spend their money, and the way they socialize.  We focus on the most minute details and find fault with the smallest of issues. We pass judgement, and think that w...