The habit of judging others

Stop Condemning

“why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but fail to notice the beam in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘let me take the speck out of your eye’, while there is still a beam in your own eye? You hypocrite! First take the beam out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” 

One of our major problem is that we are filled with our own rightness. 

Often times we find ourselves in the habit of condemning others, strangers, those we love most, those we call family, and the people we refer to as friends. 

We criticize the way someone eats or the manner in which they speak, they way they dress, how they manage their home, their choice of partner. We criticize the way they choose to show love, the way they spend their money, and the way they socialize. 

We focus on the most minute details and find fault with the smallest of issues. We pass judgement, and think that we are better than them. 

Judging someone because they sin differently from you? 

You are living a life of misery, if you always have the need to find what’s lacking or what’s missing when something good happens. 

 What we focus on grows. And if we keep focusing on a small weakness in someone, it will continue to grow in our minds until we perceive it to be a big problem in that person. There’s no reward for finding fault in others. 

Everyone has some weakness, including us.  Everyone is allowed some weakness. Our weakness is what makes us human. We are not above everyone else so we are not perfect, or close to perfect. 

We should examine ourselves for a very long time before thinking of condemning others. – Moliere

Often, we perceive in others the weakness we most need to address within ourselves. We say unkind things to them in the name of ‘correction’. We say the things that we really want to say to ourselves. The things that we are feeling about ourselves. 

Therefore, we should accept complete responsibility for the way things are and resolve to work and change ourselves first before seeking to change others. There is no need to bring people down just so we can bring ourselves up, while pretending like it’s for their own good. 

To live a happier, more peaceful, ‘judging less' life, we must begin to see that the richness of our society comes from its diversity. Would we really want to live in a world where everyone looked, acted and thought exactly as we do? It would be a pretty boring place, don’t we think? 

What makes relationships, communities and countries great are not the things that we have in common but the differences that make us unique. Rather than looking for things to criticize in those around us, why not begin to respect the differences? ♥