I can't get him out of my mind

Have you noticed that being left makes one love and lust the person who left them even more? It is a real thing, and it’s called frustration attraction. 

Frustration attraction is what makes us pursue that person who doesn’t like us as much as we like them, harder. It makes you love the person harder. It is what makes rejection so alluring. 

 Our insecurities would make us turn our minds inside out wondering which of our flaws or faults might have put them off. 

Our ego wouldn’t accept that someone isn’t returning our affection. It’s a psychological issue. 

We would become irrational just to get this person’s attention or affection. We would make decisions that we would steer away from if we had a clear mind. 

We might even go as far as altering ourselves – physically. 

So it’s like this, as long as this person doesn’t want us, we would desperately try every trick and tactics just to win their affection. 

We would become so possessed with our desire to win this person and their validation, that it becomes stronger than our desire to remain rational, balanced, emotionally healthy, and generally healthy. 

You know how you crave something more just because you can’t have it, not because you really like it or need it. 

That rush and thrill we feel might not be love. It could be our ego or insecurities seeking to be soothed or wanted, respectively. 

Even if we eventually win the game, we would only sentence ourselves to a relationship that is neither healthy nor right for us. We would always have to fight for them to value and want us. Unfortunately, our actions cause the opposite to happen most times. Our value would  diminish through their eyes. 

And if our ego was responsible for the relationship, same ego would make us not to accept that we had made a mistake. 

Now you know what a frustration attraction is I hope the next time you can’t keep the thoughts of someone who doesn’t want you out of your mind;  you can take a sane moment to remember that you might be going through a frustration attraction- you are not in love!  And you would be fine, as long as you don’t fight for them to love you. ♥