When your love is unexpressed

Is love truly a helpless feeling? Do we control love or does love control us? 

There’s been a lot of feed back on ‘the pain of falling in love with someone unattainable’. I had to do a little more research and interview on the topic. 

I discovered that lots are in love with people other than their partners, some have unexpressed feelings because they are scared of being rejected, some are not proud of the people they have fallen in love with, and some are chasing after someone that doesn’t want to be caught by them. 

 Can we manipulate how we feel? Are there things we can do to make us fall out of love? Does love have a switch? What  do you do when you can’t get them out of your head? Do unexpressed feelings just die? 

Love is beautiful, love is sweet, love is also torture. Love is torture when we are in it alone, love is torture when we are not free to express it. When everything you’ve ever wanted is standing right in front of you but they aren’t yours to have, when you walk around with feelings you can’t express because the person you have them for is the someone that can’t receive them. When love is not enough to make something work. 

You hide your emotions for fear of scaring the other person away; or because you are ashamed of admitting them. So you move about with all these unexpressed feelings that seem to grow stronger everyday. You begin to see them everywhere; in your sleep, on your street, on your mind. 

It’s worse when the person you have such feelings for know exactly how you feel but choose not to return them. 

You wait and hope that one day they will as much as looked your way and want you back like you want them. 

What do you do when it’s hard to admit that you have fallen in love with someone who can’t be yours? When you have feelings for the person you didn’t want to? When you want to write ‘I love you’ on a rock and throw it on their face, so they can know how much it hurts to love them. When you suffer alone. 

Sometimes your heart needs more time to accept what your mind already knows; trying to make someone fall in love with you is as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with. Sometimes the only thing you can do for love is let go. 

Changing your appearance or habits won’t help if the person you want doesn’t love you, but letting go and finding another person helps. You can read tips on how to let go and how to move on. Don’t be hard on yourself. It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to get over it ,as long as you are making some progress. 

Send your unreturned love experience to bittersweetwithtochi@gmail.com. I will post them on Monday. ♥ 

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