I met someone else...
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I married my wife 6 years ago, last year we separated due to some irreconcilable issues. We have been living and working in different cities, one of the major reasons for our fight. The distance and who should move.
On the 18th of May, she agreed for us to work things out. She even volunteered to quit her job and move to my own city. I was excited and looking forward to it until I met someone else last week of May.
She’s the manifestation of everything I have ever wanted in a woman. We have been seeing each other for about three weeks and a few days now. I think I am in love with her already. I’m confused, my wife seems changed and willing to work things out which is what I have always wanted. But this other person is different and I am sure of what I feel for her. Is this not wrong timing? Who is the right one for me here?
That’s a real timing problem.
I believe your wife was once right for you, if she wasn’t you wouldn’t have been married to her for 6 years and you wouldn’t have been willing to work things out. However, it’s still possible to find another right person and to find her at the ‘right time’. So let’s go back to timing.
Some times working on a failed relationship is better than attempting a new one. I don’t know the details of the issues you have in your relationship but I think you still have feelings for your wife, otherwise you wouldn’t want to still be with her. You may feel like you will miss the opportunity to be with someone of your dreams. But would you have noticed your girlfriend if you had put all your heart in your marriage?
I don’t believe it’s possible to be in love with two people at the same time – so not possible. The only time someone else other than your partner would look like the ‘right person’ is when your current partner isn’t. Either they never were or one of you didn’t build the right foundation or commitment to the relationship. That’s when they can suddenly feel irreparable.
So it’s time for a moment of honesty. Sit your self down and have some honest conversation with yourself. Maybe your girlfriend seems like the right one at the wrong time because maybe she’s wrong for you at the moment. Or maybe it’s not even about your girlfriend, maybe your subconscious is revolting against working things out with your wife. Maybe working things out is not really what you want.
I hope you make the right choice. ♥
I married my wife 6 years ago, last year we separated due to some irreconcilable issues. We have been living and working in different cities, one of the major reasons for our fight. The distance and who should move.
On the 18th of May, she agreed for us to work things out. She even volunteered to quit her job and move to my own city. I was excited and looking forward to it until I met someone else last week of May.
She’s the manifestation of everything I have ever wanted in a woman. We have been seeing each other for about three weeks and a few days now. I think I am in love with her already. I’m confused, my wife seems changed and willing to work things out which is what I have always wanted. But this other person is different and I am sure of what I feel for her. Is this not wrong timing? Who is the right one for me here?
That’s a real timing problem.
I believe your wife was once right for you, if she wasn’t you wouldn’t have been married to her for 6 years and you wouldn’t have been willing to work things out. However, it’s still possible to find another right person and to find her at the ‘right time’. So let’s go back to timing.
Some times working on a failed relationship is better than attempting a new one. I don’t know the details of the issues you have in your relationship but I think you still have feelings for your wife, otherwise you wouldn’t want to still be with her. You may feel like you will miss the opportunity to be with someone of your dreams. But would you have noticed your girlfriend if you had put all your heart in your marriage?
I don’t believe it’s possible to be in love with two people at the same time – so not possible. The only time someone else other than your partner would look like the ‘right person’ is when your current partner isn’t. Either they never were or one of you didn’t build the right foundation or commitment to the relationship. That’s when they can suddenly feel irreparable.
So it’s time for a moment of honesty. Sit your self down and have some honest conversation with yourself. Maybe your girlfriend seems like the right one at the wrong time because maybe she’s wrong for you at the moment. Or maybe it’s not even about your girlfriend, maybe your subconscious is revolting against working things out with your wife. Maybe working things out is not really what you want.
I hope you make the right choice. ♥
Be as willing as your wife is to make things work, and you will be fine. New girl won't be an angel always. What happens then? You get another?
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